I am probably strange but I actually find change inspiring (most of the time). The last 16 years of my life I have limited change in my life to create “stability” in my sons life as much as possible. In the last four months I ended a relationship that was never going to be what I wanted in a long term relationship. I also changed from a…
I am probably strange but I actually find change inspiring (most of the time). The last 16 years of my life I have limited change in my life to create “stability” in my sons life as much as possible. In the last four months I ended a relationship that was never going to be what I wanted in a long term relationship. I also changed from a Monday-Friday job that I held for 16 years to a job that I will work nights/weekends/holidays (people think I’m crazy). I ended a relationship with someone I love and a job that I loved for 16 years. Even though I loved these things they were keeping me from things I want/need in this phase of my life. Sometimes you have to open your hands to let go of good/ok things so you are open to better things. Fortunately For me I am still friends with my ex and with my former coworkers and that helps. I think it is important to remind yourself of past changes that have ended better than expected and not let fear rule your decisions. Most things you can go back to if it doesn’t work out (you can always move back) but you never know if you don’t try.
It sounds like you have really grabbed life by the horns these past few months! I love your sense of adventure and willingness to strike out and break new ground. (And that's so great you have a good relationship with your ex, too!) The last thing you mention is so key -- not letting fear rule your decisions. I find that it trying to hold on to what you have can have such a gravitational pull that I'm not even aware of it. I heard a great line once -- "the chains of habit are too light to be felt until they're too heavy to be broken." That has a way of putting guardrails around our courage that I think we're not often aware of. I'm going to come back to what you wrote again, I'm sure.
I am probably strange but I actually find change inspiring (most of the time). The last 16 years of my life I have limited change in my life to create “stability” in my sons life as much as possible. In the last four months I ended a relationship that was never going to be what I wanted in a long term relationship. I also changed from a Monday-Friday job that I held for 16 years to a job that I will work nights/weekends/holidays (people think I’m crazy). I ended a relationship with someone I love and a job that I loved for 16 years. Even though I loved these things they were keeping me from things I want/need in this phase of my life. Sometimes you have to open your hands to let go of good/ok things so you are open to better things. Fortunately For me I am still friends with my ex and with my former coworkers and that helps. I think it is important to remind yourself of past changes that have ended better than expected and not let fear rule your decisions. Most things you can go back to if it doesn’t work out (you can always move back) but you never know if you don’t try.
It sounds like you have really grabbed life by the horns these past few months! I love your sense of adventure and willingness to strike out and break new ground. (And that's so great you have a good relationship with your ex, too!) The last thing you mention is so key -- not letting fear rule your decisions. I find that it trying to hold on to what you have can have such a gravitational pull that I'm not even aware of it. I heard a great line once -- "the chains of habit are too light to be felt until they're too heavy to be broken." That has a way of putting guardrails around our courage that I think we're not often aware of. I'm going to come back to what you wrote again, I'm sure.