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Fran Gardner's avatar

I just started reading The Power of Regret. I thought I really hated regret, but Pink shows how it can be to our advantage. Thanks for the review! Enjoy your writing as always.

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Terrell Johnson's avatar

Thank you, Fran! Let me know what you think -- I loved that it's just 200 pages or so 😃

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Nancy A's avatar

Thank you for the great reflection points! As my physical abilities change due to a progressive neurological condition, I can easily lose myself into despair. This reminds me of what I am gaining mentally and emotionally through those struggles.

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Terrell Johnson's avatar

Thank you, Nancy! I hope you're in a good place with the condition you describe; my dad has been diagnosed with a condition like that, and it's been difficult to handle and accept. Day by day, day by day.

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Nancy A's avatar

I have my moments of despair, but I try not to live there. 😉

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Dominic's avatar

Excellent post! You’re at your best!

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Terrell Johnson's avatar

Thanks so much, Dominic!! You are so kind.

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Diana M. Wilson's avatar

T-I have been outlining a post about this (whatever we choose to call it--self-criticism/Self-honestly/Self-awareness) And it was inspired (oddly) by a brilliant passage in The Sympathizer--when I finally write the darn thing, I'll include the passage because it is SO GOOD--while I haven't got my title exactly right--the essence of that post is--Do you want to get/be better, or do you just want a gold star on your paper???

In my professional life--I had so many team members who only wanted gold stars--they would never want to hear the honest feedback--would either shut-down or get angry when someone tried. The people who always did the best were the ones who could take it in--look at themselves dispassionately--decide what fit--(not all criticism does) and commit to work on the things they COULD change.

I've gotten so much better taking feedback with this whole, long, boring novel journey you're probably already sick of hearing about. And it's because I no longer see the novel as an extension of me. It's another thing altogether--and if I want "it" (that detached version of myself) to get better--to have a chance of doing good in the world--I have to listen with an open mind and when criticized, I can't sink into despair. I have to let the feedback sit--figure out what fits--fix it (if I can) and move on.

As always...your posts are the best...which reminds me--I need to recommend your Substack....(with the reasons why) on the list of to dos this week...And finally..... 50--what a fabulous turning point--I hiked Machu Picchu in celebration of mine...Wish your wife the happiest of birthdays from your community here...

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Terrell Johnson's avatar

Thank you, Diana! And I'm so jealous of your trip to Machu Picchu -- I've ALWAYS wanted to go there; I have to get there while my legs and joints are still able to do it! I would love to talk with you more about your novel -- I think any creative project that you have to go deep into, like a novel, is going to involve the kind of experience you're describing. We really underestimate how hard these things can be, I think; it's a little like playing golf -- the mental part is the hardest part, just keeping at it, despite all the doubts and insecurities that creep in. It's really, really hard, and my hat is off to you for completing it. That's -- creatively -- like climbing Everest!

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Diana M. Wilson's avatar

It is, really really hard! (As you say.) And there are times you just want a pacifier, a blankie, and a nap. But man, it’s also sooooo rewarding if/when you decide to stay in the ring. (I wrote about it in my last post-the top 5 reasons writing a novel is the stupidest thing you’ll ever do-and 5 other reasons why it might be the best) as for MP—do it!!! And also, do the Camino. Walking 500 miles in a month will literally melt the years away

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Diana M. Wilson's avatar

PS If you EVER truly want to talk about the novel (and I'm guessing more about the process--my novel is irrelevant to the bigger conversation)--my phone lines are open. 😁

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Julie Gabrielli's avatar

Thanks for this. I’ve cued up the book on Libby. The timing is perfect. And this advice, of course! “The more you struggle, the better you get.” We all know that as runners. And it applies equally to any challenge in life. 🙏

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Jill W.'s avatar

TRUTH

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Jill W.'s avatar

Terrific post and your past one regarding “regret”. As I’m in the home stretch of retirement, my emotional/physical state parallels what you’re experiencing. I’m allowing myself grace, to move through the tunnels and climb peaks and valleys (so to speak) of my running and emotional state. I’m changing and scared (yet, excited) as I approach the next phase of life. It’s not far off, but I see it. Thanks again for these posts!

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Terrell Johnson's avatar

Right back at you, Jill! Are you getting ready to retire? (Is that the "next phase" you mean?)

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Jill W.'s avatar

Yes! A year and a half to go as an inner city teacher!! 👧🏻

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Terrell Johnson's avatar

This is so awesome, Jill! What do you have planned after you retire?

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Jill W.'s avatar

I have NO clue……yet…..except enjoy my mornings doing whatever and travel when it isn’t school vaca 🤣

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Jill W.'s avatar

Also, I would like continue part time as a reading specialist, but on my time 😄😃

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