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Charles Zuckerman's avatar

This really strikes close to home right now. I’ve been running marathons for 30 years and ultras for 23. I’ve never been competitive but held my own. I got into running as an adult to get healthy and off Lipitor but became enthralled. Ultimately I retired at 52 to give myself the time to train and go to those races on my bucket list, culminating with Badwater last year.

But now I am on deck for hip replacement surgery. Outlook is good and biking and swimming g will be back on the schedule but my first love, running may not. It is also disorienting to not have an event on the schedule to aim for. It is not a bad thing. It is a time for reflection and exploration, asking myself what is next. But it is a mystery to be unraveled and as such constitutes an unknowable phase shift.

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rneverette@gmail.com's avatar

This really struck home with me. Recently, (the past 2 years) I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease that affects my rheumatoid arthritis. The bouts of exhaustion, muscle and joint pain, has curbed my enthusiasm for my happy place of running, also my stress reliever. On good days I tried to push on and walk, but it became so sporadic and frustrating. Without the fitness, and depression, so came the weight gain. It's just been a vicious cycle. It's so hard to "dial it back"--that's just not me. I am 66, so not a spring chicken anyway, but I loved doing races with my grandkids, I was the cool grandmama that does stuff other grandmama's don't do. (or parents) My "funk" has given me a new and different challenge---is it going to beat me? Or can I just readjust? I'm too competitive to just cave in, so after my months long "pity party", I've been on my new path. Healthier eating (again), and the treadmill and elliptical and I are getting reacquainted. Change is hard. We enjoy things the way they are and settle in. Raising kids and seeing them grow up takes the wind out of our sails too. When my children became adults and one of my daughters missed our family christmas (she was getting engaged to her husband and cruising with his family), everything changed after that point. We struggle with letting them grow up. Last Christmas I spent home alone with the dogs, we slept late, (husband was at work,) we'd prepared breakfast casserole the night before, one daughter and her family were on their new tradition of Christmas cruise, the other lives 300 miles away and has their family traditions, and eldest daughter lives closer, but has her own family too. I often wonder if the changes for them starting their new traditions bother them as they do us old folks? I doubt it since they are creating new traditions and we've just lost our old ones. It's time to move forward though. Another phase in family, health and fitness, just everything has to be modified. Some phases are more of a struggle than others though---but life goes on and so must we.

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