The joys (and challenges) of running with family

Plus 21 half marathons with (lots of) beer at the finish line

“I think the key thing is to train hard and you definitely need competition, you definitely need races ... training helps you, but you have to compete against other people who’re a higher level to build you up, make you know what else you need to work on.” — Usain Bolt

There’s a lot of wisdom in these words by the legendary Jamaican Olympic champion and world record holder in several distances, who’s considered by many to be the greatest sprinter of all time.

I think that’s because it homes in on what’s been my experience — on a much different level, of course — at the races I’ve run over the years: it helps to see how other runners, my own age and gender as well as all across the board, are running and how my own compares.

Not because of vanity, necessarily. (I’m never going to win a race or come anywhere close, let’s be honest.) But seeing other runners and how they’re performing helps me gauge whether I’m putting enough effort into my own running or if I’m just coasting.

Years ago, I ran the Bermuda International Marathon, the one on the island of Bermuda, just off the coast of North Carolina. It was an absolutely stunning run in so many ways, from the kids who ran alongside us during the race to the clear blue water we looked out onto, to the spectators who called out our names by reading our race bib numbers printed in that morning’s Bermuda Sun newspaper.

One thing I’ll never forget from that race, however, happened around mile 21 or 22 — the point in the race when you’re really exhausted and you just want it to be over. Before you’ve reached the moment when you can imagine the finish and how good it will feel and you get that extra burst of energy.

I was 25 years old at the time and probably in the best shape of my life, and I was huffing and puffing and barely making it. The next thing I know, I’m pulling behind a woman who’s at least in her mid-sixties. It took me a moment to realize that she’d been running ahead of me for the whole race!

Needless to say, that ignited a little bit of shame inside me, which I directed in a positive way, I think. Suddenly I found my legs had extra energy in them that I hadn’t felt for the entire race, and I turned it on to pass her a mile or two before the finish line.

Why is this relevant today, you might ask?

It keeps coming back to mind because I’ve been having a really interesting conversation over email the past couple of weeks with a reader named Karla, a single mother who is trying to figure out how to run and train, and bring her 11-year-old daughter to races.

The trouble is, there’s no childcare at running events. The Rock ‘n’ Roll Marathon series tried offering it a few years back, but ended up dropping it and today they don’t offer it at any of their races.

Here’s what Karla wrote to me this week, responding to a question I asked her about a Facebook group discussion on this topic that she mentioned:

“The main thing that others came up with other than a babysitter was to have her volunteer. I’m not sure my daughter is old enough though since she is only 11 years old. I love to travel with my daughter & what better way too see new places than run but I have yet to find a race that offers childcare.

Even many couples started that they would love to run races together but have to take turns due to one of them having to watch the kids. I personally have no problem paying extra for this amenity. I would probably run way too many races (if that's even possible) if this was an option.”

What’s heartbreaking about this is that Karla clearly loves running and wants to step up her participation — and would gladly spend more money on races (hint, hint, race directors!) if it were easier for her to do so.

I know where Karla is coming from, because I have young children (ages 4 and 13) and would love to be able to bring them along too. Even more than that, I want to show them how meaningful running can be in their lives, how it’s a lifelong thing that they can enjoy and become close with a group of friends that’s difficult to replicate in any other area of life.

And I want people like Karla to be able to get out of races what I got from the sixty-ish-year-old woman who was lapping me at the Bermuda Marathon all those years ago, who helped me see what I was (or rather, wasn’t) doing and what I needed to do differently.

Competition, even when it’s the friendly competition we find at races, helps us become better runners. And runners like Karla deserve that chance every bit as much as you or I do.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this, in the comments below or by replying to this email. I think there’s much more we in the running community can do to support single parents of all stripes, and help bring even more people to the sport.

Enough of the soapbox for now! I hope your week is going great and you’re enjoying getting out for some runs — it’s been beautiful weather here in Atlanta, a little bit cooler than average, which has been great for us here.

Hopefully it’s great where you are as well. Let me know and as always, keep in touch.

Your friend,

— Terrell

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This will likely seem insignificant, but I’d like to change the name of the newsletter from “The Half Marathon Guide Newsletter” to simply “The Half Marathoner.”

What I like about the proposed new name is that it expresses the things I’d like to cover both more succinctly and more completely — the current name is a bit of a mouthful, and doesn’t fit easily in the name field of an email inbox.

I’d love to hear your thoughts!