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Mario's avatar

Great Article and I can definitely relate as a parent/step parent. I remarried and became a step parent to a 9 and 6 year old in 2012. I also had 2 biological children that were young. It was definitely a team effort. Lots of patience, open communication, and prayer. My step kids dad passed away when they were 12 and 9 which was a difficult time for them so I definitely tried my best to toe the line from that point forward to make sure they understood that I am in no way replacing their father and was happy to always discuss him with them, but that I would also always be there for them in whatever way they needed. I also had to make sure my 2 biological kids (who my wife became a step parent too as well) kept feeling the same love and nurturing. We now have a happy blended family with my step son about to head off to college. I supported him all through high school as if he was my own and we have a great relationship now. All four of my kids get along great and we often refer ourselves as the blended Brady Bunch Family. Church has been an important factor for us as well. Definitely been ups and downs like any family, but step parenting definitely added a different dimension that I feel helped to make us all better because of it 😊❤️🙏🏾!

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Jennie Conyers's avatar

That was beautiful. I imagine being a step parent is tough. I can certainly see how that relationship in Maverick is very much like that if a stepparent.

I’m not a stepparent but my mom was married a few times. It was certainly semi-stressful to meet each new boyfriend and having stepfathers. At one time when I was young and naive, I told my on-and-off-again birth father that no one would ever replace him. As I grew up and found that my stepfather that had been with my mom since I was 11, was acting as a real “dad” would. He put up with my teenage years, which we know isn’t easy. I grew to respect him and eventually asked him if I could call him dad when I became a teenager. They divorced when I turned 28, but to this day, I still call him Dad, refer to him as my Dad to others, and I send him a birthday and Father’s Day present every year.

My “real father”…yeah I called him by his first name when I got wiser and started calling my stepdad “dad”. One time I visited and kept calling him Bob and he told me “you know you can call me Dad.” My response was,”you’ve got a deal when you start treating me like your daughter.” That’s me…snarky to this day :)

My hat goes off to you! It’s not easy but my best advice as a stepchild is to be “available”. When she needs you, and she will, I’m sure if it, and you are there for her, that is the time you will shine in her eyes.

How’s the 100 miles coming along? I hate to admit that I’m still at 33 miles. I haven’t run a darn mile. I have today off so I’m heading to a sports equipment store today to check them out. The weather here sucks and I have to do something.

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