“What you ask for, you never get. It's better to accept your blessings as they come.” — Man Kaur
Today is my stepdaughter’s 14th birthday.
She’s brilliant, so talented, and extremely funny — she gets and likes quoting “Seinfeld” almost as much as I do, and I am convinced we all will see her in the movies or on Broadway someday.
It’s no exaggeration to say that every day with her — as well as her mother, our almost 5-year-old boy, and our golden retriever Murphy — is an adventure.
I wasn’t a part of her life, though, until she was almost 7 years old. Which got me thinking today, where was I and what was I doing on her actual birthday 14 years ago? I had no idea that something was happening in a hospital here in Atlanta that, years down the road, would change my life more than I could possibly imagine.
No doubt I had plans I was working on, goals I was working toward. But little did I know how big a role the pinball of life would play in changing those plans (in a much, much better way than I could have known).
I was thinking about that when I stumbled across this heartwarming NPR story about the amazing Indian runner Man Kaur, a mother of three, grandmother of nine, and great-grandmother of 14 who didn’t take up running until very late in life — age 93, to be exact.
Why in the world would someone take up running, of all things, at age 93? Largely because her son, who at 79 is no spring chicken himself, thought it would be a good idea.
“She was very well, with no health problems, and she moved fast,” Kaur’s son Gurdev Singh told NPR. “So I took her to the university track with me and asked her to run 400 meters. She did it, slowly, and I thought ‘Yes, she can do it.’”
She liked enough to keep going out to the track and improving, enough that two years later, she found herself traveling with her son to participate in international running events.
Kaur hasn’t slowed down since. Her daily routine — which includes rising at 4:00 a.m. to take care of household duties before she has tea and prayers — has her at the track every day for an hour of sprinting practice.
But that’s not all. Three days a week, she practices throwing the shot put and javelin, to ensure she’s as well-rounded an athlete as she can be. (At age 102.)
That’s because she travels with her son today all over the world to compete in World Masters Athletics Championships, flying places as far-flung as Canada, Malaysia, New Zealand, Singapore and Taiwan.
Along the way, she’s won 32 gold medals, as in this competition earlier this month in Malaga, Spain:
LOOK AT THAT SMILE !!! Man Kaur from India wins the 200m GOLD in the World Masters Athletics #WMAMalaga2018. Age group 100- 104 years!!
What a privilege for every person in the world to see her in action and to share her joy 😊😊#PinkathonFOREVER pic.twitter.com/hDvWc3EVVf
The answer is that Kaur wasn’t born into a life in which she’d receive the kind of encouragement she does today from her son as well as her many fans. Her mother died in childbirth when Kaur was born in 1916, after which she was sent to live with her paternal grandparents in Patiala, today a city that was once a kingdom when India was still ruled by the British.
She’d later grow up to work as a nanny and maid for one of the more than 300 queens of the maharaja of Patiala, working in the palace there until she married in 1934 and had children of her own.
All those years, she earned about 10 rupees a month — or about 15 cents, in today’s U.S. dollars.
Given that, she lived a humble life. And she still is living one today. Her son Singh says they travel at their own expense to all of the competitions they take part in. “We are not greedy persons,” he added in his NPR interview. “It would be nice if the government supported just our actual expenses.”
In an ironic twist of fate, in January 2017 the Indian government finally agreed to give them some support for all they’re doing to raise the profile of senior sports — by providing them an apartment to live in near the university athletic stadium in Patiala.
And before that, right after she won a 2016 Masters competition in Canada, she was invited to run a 5K race in Patiala. The organizers even “invited [her] to spend the night at the palace. Ironically, she was given the bedroom of the queen she'd worked for!”
Perhaps that is what gives Kaur the equanimity she’s known for today. She implores young people today to take care of their fitness by avoiding junk food and staying dedicated to an exercise regimen, but also adds these words (quoted above), which come from a famous Punjab saying:
“What you ask for, you never get,” Kaur says. “It’s better to accept your blessings as they come.”
I couldn’t agree more. Kaur’s amazing life has shown that, and my own (far less amazing!) life has shown me that as well.
So what are we to do with all these plans we have? Just keep showing up, I think — just keep running. And stay away from the junk food, like Kaur says.
That one’s going to be a little tricky for me, I must admit. But I’m going to try. :)
Take care my friends and have a wonderful rest of your week — keep me up-to-date on your running, as always.
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